Of course their is an obvious qualification of physical attractiveness, but more than that, I think a person's personality or character traits are what really make them attractive or unattractive. Some things that turn me off to a guy is bad personal hygiene, a need to control me, a guy who can't make me laugh or only makes jokes at other people's expense, or a guy that has no ambitions in life.
Ducks theory makes sense to me but at the same time I don't always agree with order that he puts them in. For example, I once met a guy who I thought was attractive, we got along great, and who I had lots in common with. His only downfall was that he lived 45 minutes away. However, this did not stop me initially from wanting to get to know him but after a couple months, it became such a hassle that we decided it was just not going to work. Another example of an experience I had where I rearranged Duck's filters is when I ruled out a guy as a potential love interest because I wasn't initially physically attracted to him but later, after I got to know him as a friend, became so attracted to him that we started dating.
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We are very similar in the things that turn us off. I think it's funny because to me, these are all very simple things but for so many they are complex! Additionally, we are similar in that we have both haven't been physically attracted to a person but after getting to know them, the attraction came. Interaction is so important and it is a key component in making any type of relationship work. Your interaction was limited with the person that lived 45 minutes away so I know that was a contributing factor in why it didn't work out.
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